DATING IS NOT FRIENDSHIP

DATING IS NOT FRIENDSHIP

WHO IS A TRUE FRIEND?


An “Inspirer”.

Inspiration is the core of friendship. A true friend is the one that inspires you to the next level per time. He is that person whose vision causes your vision to leap for joy. When a true friend speaks you see the future, when a true friend speaks your dead dreams, visions and plans come alive. A true friend clears the dust off your vision books and hands you a pen to write your visions afresh.
 The voice of a true friend pushes you to completing abandoned project in your live. A true friend is a man of vision, a man without vision is a man without restrain. Friendship with a man and woman of vision is a purposeful friendship.
A man without vision is a perishing fellow because “the vision of your friend is a picture of your future”, without vision the people perish. A relationship with a visionless fellow is a perishing relationship. Friendship they say is not by force but by choice. It is wisdom to carefully select your friends. Anybody that can’t inspire you should not be your friend and is not worthy of your hand or destiny in marriage. Look carefully, think well, appraise well.




A True friend is a Challenger

A true friend challenges you out of the status quo. A true friend pushes you without looking back just in the bid to make sure you succeed. A true friend does not condone your excuses.  A true friend is the “press that ensures oil is extracted from the olive, that juice is drained from the fruit, that paper is produced from the timber, that crude oil gives up (petrol, kerosene, diesel etc.)”
A true friend does not pity you because his eye is on the future. A true friend will not excuse you from the intensity of the heat because he wants you to be refined into pure gold that will be highly priced tomorrow.
Please note this “anyone that does not challenge you is not a true friend”. Anybody that condones your misbehavior and does not correct you and challenge you to do better is only around you for what they can get from you today, they will soon abandon you.


A  Bank Of Truth

A true friend does not find it difficult to tell you the truth about who you really are. He celebrates you when you excel and reprimands you when you decline. Anyone who will not frown at your wrong doing is not a true friend. This kind of individual will “smile you into the grave”. Please be very careful with people that all they have to offer you is praises even when you know that you have done something that is extremely bad.
Sycophants are the worst kind of people to have around you, they are grave diggers and very parasitic in nature, you do not want to have a sycophant as a friend. Look carefully, select well, and be wise.
A Friendly Person
A man that hath friends must show himself friendly (Prov. 18:24). Can you say a person is a true friend without being friendly?
He is to be an inspirer but also friendly, a challenger but friendly, a bank of truth but friendly.
What does it mean to be friendly?
Be accommodating
Be receptive
Be without envy
Be without pride
Be without jealousy
A true friend must have the following virtues;
Love
Joy
Peace
Patience
Goodness
Faithfulness
Gentleness
Self-control
Kindness