USING YOUR MOTIVE TO SET YOUR SPOUSE ON MOTION TOWARDS YOU

 

CHAPTER FOUR

Chapter lead story

I REJECTED HER BEAUTY AND WEALTH

“I rejected her beauty and wealth” this was a shocking comment from my neighbour - Edidiong. After receiving his wedding card and noticing that the bride was not Uduak – the lady I knew as his frequent date, I had to ask questions. 

Uduak was not just rich, she had an impressive command of English and she looked smart and beautiful all the time. She had been a regular visitor in the compound to see Edidiong and so when he said he was going to get married, I only assumed Uduak would be the bride. She had some form of financial security because of her businesses apart from her managerial post in an oil company. Leaving her for a civil servant did not sound wise, but Edidiong gave his strong reasons and expressed his concern for her poor character. On hearing how domineering and hot tempered she could be; I recalled a certain day when I saw her deal Edidiong a slap outside the gate. Edidiong mentioned that as one of the instances and reasons why he could not marry her. One would think that her reason for doing that was because Edidiong fed off her, but that was not the case. Although it still would not justify her distasteful disposition, Edidiong was equally successful; Uduak just knew little or nothing about good character and respect.

The sad thing is, if she did not work on that aspect of her life, she would still get dumped by other men after Edidiong. This truth made me wish I could get her to speak with my wife or a female counsellor who would help her overcome the character flaws.

UNDERSTANDING HOW TO ATTRACT WITH YOUR CHARACTER

Your experiences, personality, disposition, training and exposure make up your character. Your character is who you are, it holds your personality. Character is the combination of qualities or features that distinguish a person from other people. A person’s character is his pattern of behaviour, thoughts and feelings that are based on his principles and moral judgments. Where there is no progress in certain areas of your life, a careful examination would give a clue that the delay may be caused by your character. Sadly, some people avoid working on the unwholesome aspects of their character by using such lame phrases like “that’s me”, “that’s just the way I am”. Such statements are just excuses that make you deny reality while creating a bottleneck effect for yourself.

The person that seeks progress in life will pursue for help through books and other training materials that will assist him address the character issues in his life.